27 articles
Long-term love doesn't fail dramatically — it fades quietly, through relational autopilot. Here's what social science reveals about the three forces that actually keep romantic partnerships alive: energy allocation, conversational drift, and the surprising fine print on gratitude.
Jules Nakamura·
The standard loneliness advice is to get out there and meet people. The science has a sneakier suggestion: turn your attention outward and give something away. Here's the surprisingly robust evidence that kindness and volunteering reduce loneliness — in the giver.
Jules Nakamura·
Most of us confuse solitude with loneliness — and spend our lives chasing a kind of social life that was never going to nourish us. The science reveals a more honest distinction, and a quieter path forward.
Sage Lindgren·
Empathy isn't something you're born with — it's a skill with documented training modalities that actually work. Here's the science-backed framework for getting better at the most important social skill nobody ever taught you.
Ren Castillo·
We tend to think of warmth toward others as a personality trait — something you either have or you don't. The science says otherwise. Here's what loving-kindness research reveals about the trainable inner orientation that changes how connected you feel.
Sage Lindgren·
Before you send that overdue "thinking of you" message, you run an elaborate internal risk assessment. Here's what the science says about why we hesitate — and how catastrophically we underestimate what our words mean to the people who receive them.
Sage Lindgren·
Long-term couples drift not because love fades, but because a specific feedback loop breaks down. Here's the social science behind what actually sustains romantic intimacy — and three practical moves to rebuild it.
Jules Nakamura·
Chronic illness doesn't just affect your body — it systematically dismantles your social world. Here's the science behind why that happens, why it's more dangerous than most people realize, and a practical framework for staying connected when your life looks nothing like it used to.
Jules Nakamura·
Your rec league isn't just a workout. Here's the science behind why group physical activity is one of the most powerful community-building tools available — and a practical checklist for turning sweat sessions into actual belonging.
Mika Torres·
You could have grabbed takeout alone. Instead, you stayed. Here's why eating together does something to humans that no other shared activity quite replicates — and how to use it deliberately.
Dani Okafor·
Your earliest friendships were doing invisible developmental work — and the science says what they taught you still shapes every connection you'll ever make. Here's what childhood social bonds reveal about the hidden grammar of closeness.
Sage Lindgren·
Most people invest in friendships and family — and overlook the one developmental relationship research says shapes us most. Here's the science behind mentorship bonds, and five practical moves to build yours.
Jules Nakamura·
Your chosen family might matter more than your biological one — and the science agrees. Here's how chosen families actually form, why they work, and how to deliberately build yours.
Jules Nakamura·
The pressure to be socially abundant misses the point. Here's what neuroscience says about the power of a small, close circle — and why introverts' deepest instincts may be better calibrated than they've been told.
Sage Lindgren·
Your long-distance friends aren't lost — they're waiting. Here's a practical, science-backed framework for maintaining the friendships that matter most, no matter the miles.
Ren Castillo·
There's a quiet friendship recession among men — and it's well-documented by science. Here's what research reveals about why it happens, and four evidence-backed moves to fix it.
Jules Nakamura·
Retirement, loss, and life transitions quietly dismantle the structures that kept us socially wired. Here's what the science says actually works — and a practical checklist for building meaningful connection in later life.
Mika Torres·
Everyone's obsessed with their attachment "type" — but the science says those styles are far more changeable than you think. Here's how adult security actually develops, and four evidence-backed pathways to get there.
Jules Nakamura·
Your barista probably liked that conversation more than you think — and the science backs it up. Here's what research on weak ties and the "liking gap" means for your Tuesday morning routine.
Jules Nakamura·
Coffee catch-ups feel safe, but science says they're the wrong format for deepening bonds. Here's why shared activity triggers bonding chemistry — and five simple moves to put it to work.
Jules Nakamura·
You moved, retired, or started over — and your social calendar went blank. Here's a 5-step framework for rebuilding your social world from scratch, backed by science.
Ren Castillo·
You feel it. You just don't say it. Here's what research says about why the appreciation gap exists — and what actually happens to a relationship when you close it.
Sage Lindgren·
The "social media ruins everything" panic isn't well-supported by the science. What matters isn't how much tech you use to connect — it's what kind. Here's the research, plus a 3-step audit to fix your digital social diet.
Ren Castillo·
Feeling disconnected? The most evidence-backed fix isn't another networking event — it's structured volunteering. Here's exactly how to use it as a connection strategy, with the science to back it up.
Ren Castillo·
How connected your teenager feels at school turns out to predict their mental health for a decade. Here's what the research says — and what adults in their lives can actually do about it.
Dani Okafor·
Your neighborhood is packed with connection infrastructure — parks, clubs, events, and programs. Here's a practical framework for actually plugging in and using it.
Ren Castillo·
Deep adult friendships don't happen by accident. Here's what the research says about why they're so hard to build — and the specific moves that actually make them real.
Dani Okafor·